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When Things Seem Easy, But Aren’t

Posted by on Jul 3, 2017

This spring I stained my wood fence. The further I got into it, the further I realized it was not going to be as easy as I’d hoped. One of the first problems was that I’d miscalculated how much stain it was actually going to take to get the job done. I thought I’d followed all of the directions and calculated all the square footage correctly. But it wasn’t working. In fact, I noticed something interesting.

Some of the fence slats seemed to be soaking up more stain than others. The roughest, bumpiest, knottiest wood was taking in a lot more stain than the smooth, beautifully lined lumber. This got me thinking and I did a bit of research online. I found that the inconsistencies in the wood made for more space between the grains in the rough planks I was staining. More space between the grains meant I had to apply more stain to fill the gaps and get the same color. The beautiful pieces that weren’t as rough and took less stain didn’t have as many holes to fill. Staining the rough wood took more time and patience, while the finer wood seemed like a breeze to stain.

My point is this: We’ve all got rough, ugly, stain soaking moments in our life. Sometimes that’s a relationship and sometimes it’s our own personal quirks. Either way, it’s going to take a certain amount of perseverance, grit, and determination to deal with the problem. We shouldn’t give up or give in.



Some of us are (how do I put this politely…) a little rougher and knottier than others. That’s okay. Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to seek help. In so doing you will oftentimes find hope. In fact, when working through the rougher patches of my life the most valuable thing I’ve discovered is hope. Like wood stain, hope soaks deep into our pores and brings new life to our tough and harshest parts.

In addition to being honest with ourselves, I’ve found it’s of great benefit to make sure you have the right tools for the job. The pump sprayer I was using to complete the job didn’t really work (which is a whole story in itself, ugh). I spent much more time working on the fence than needed. I simply didn’t have the right tools. Which is why talking to a friend, pastor, or counselor is so important. Oftentimes another person possesses the tools we need but lack. Trustworthy people will most likely have the wisdom, experience and perspective that will save you a lot of time and heartache.

Don’t give up on staining your fence. If you feel stuck on whatever personal journey you’re on, reach out and seek the advice of someone you trust. Don’t go tossing your concerns around carelessly, find someone to talk with that has a proven track record of exercising wisdom in their life decisions. In the end, you’ll be glad you completed the job.

Thank You!


Happy Independence Day to everyone! Remember to be safe as you celebrate the birthday of our country! We celebrated our 4th birthday at Peace Partnership last month and it is only because of your generosity that we are able to continue to provide counseling services to so many in need. We want to express our thanks to some of our Peace Partners in this month’s “Thank You Notes”:

  • Thank you, Marcia Hawk, for joining in our mission! Your gift is appreciated.
  • Thank you, Mike & Amber Balbier, for your gift! We are so thankful for your belief in our vision.
  • Thank you, Roger Neir, for your generosity! You are helping make a difference for so many families.
  • Thank you, Andrew & Kari Mills, for your support. It is a blessing to know how much you care about others.
  • Thank you, Marci Crain, for your gifts! We appreciate your support.

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