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When Fear Reigns Supreme

Posted by on Jul 1, 2016


“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”
– Salvador Dali –

Aeschylus wrote a famous Greek tragedy entitled, “The Eumenides.” In it he states, “There are times in life when fear is good. It must keep its watchful place at the heart’s controls.” Aeschylus makes us aware of something very insightful: fear holds an important safeguard to the doorway of our hearts. Adding a healthy dose of skepticism can prevent more powerful emotions from taking control and leading us down a destructive path, away from logic and reason.

What happens when fear is left unchecked? What happens when a person is controlled by fear to the extent that they can no longer effectively manage their own lives? In the mental health field we see various forms of fear gone awry, from anxiety disorders to post-traumatic stress. Unfortunately, I have seen clients overcome seemingly insurmountable traumas only to be gripped by a terrible sense of fear and thrown back into a paralyzed state of anxiety.

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But there is hope. Conquering our fears is hard, emotionally draining work, but victory is possible. The choices are clear: rule them, or be ruled by them. So conquer them we must. I’ve never seen a client regret working through their fears and embracing the freedom that exists on the other side. Although the journey is hard, the result is worth it.


Like any good therapy, the answer to our problem is found in accepting what is true over what is false. Your brain or your body may think they are still in a war zone, or suffering at the hands of an abuser, when in fact you’re safe. In what is supposed to be an appropriate defense mechanism, our brain ends up lying to us. Our perception has become skewed and we lack the awareness to determine what is true from what is false.

Accepting statements not based in truth skews the barometer civilized humanity uses to understand what is healthy and what is unhealthy. In short, when we give up absolute truth we also give up the possibility to overcome our fears. Hearing truth can be difficult but in the end it is always the best medicine.


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