Vulnerability. Reading the word can incite a surge of anxiety in some of us. Many people have anxiety over going to counseling because of vulnerability. When we (finally) walk into the counseling office we have a few options. We can face our desire to avoid vulnerability head on, spend some time learning to meet our vulnerability, or ignore the need for vulnerability and see nothing change. Meeting this vulnerability is a risk. By definition, vulnerability comes with the potential for pain, as it is “the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed either physically or emotionally.”
When we allow ourselves the opportunity to be revealed in this way we allow for the opportunity to be known. The desire to be known is one of our innermost yearnings, but being known is messy. Being known can be embarrassing, humbling, growth-producing and even exhausting. It’s also an opportunity for building trust. Trust in the Lord, trust in ourselves, and trust in others. It is an exercise in courage, and a discipline aimed at eradicating fear that holds us hostage from deep relationships. Maybe you’ve hidden behind a mask, a role, a spouse or a child. When I choose to be vulnerable, truly vulnerable, I gain meaningful connection and accountability so that while I am asking to be seen in my current state, I am not asking you to join me on the dysfunctional merry-go-round, I am working to get off of it. Vulnerability does not always have the set of consequences that we’d prefer (not many things do). Vulnerability can and does lead to judgment. At times it fosters pain. Vulnerability comes with a warning label and we shouldn’t fool ourselves into thinking that everyone will respond in the “right” way. We can, however, take courage and risk being vulnerable despite the fear of responses we may receive.
C.S. Lewis, a man who lost his mother to cancer at age 9, fought in World War I, and lost his wife to cancer 4 years into their marriage writes in The Four Loves about our human need for love and vulnerability:
“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it in tact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But, in that casket—safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy; or at least to the risk of tragedy is damnation. The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
I’m not saying that you should spill your guts to your grocery store checker. I’m not saying to share your struggles with someone who has shown you that they are unsafe or untrustworthy. I’m saying that closing ourselves off to anyone and anything because we’ve been hurt is creating a personal Hell on Earth. We were created for love and connection! If we perpetuate the idea that all is well all the time we are living a lie that doesn’t invite the truth to have a seat at the table. We are called to bear one another’s burdens, caring well for one another. This starts with being honest with ourselves and others—being vulnerable and trusting that being known is better than having it all together.
P.S. Your counselor can’t be the only person you are vulnerable with. We are a great place to start, an excellent place to practice, but you have to build healthy relationships that foster vulnerability in the real world too!
State Farm fundraiser for Peace Partnership!
Our local State Farm agent, Bret Farrar, will donate $10 to Peace Partnership for every insurance quote made in the month of February. Contact Bret today at 816-333-4445 or firstname.lastname@example.org or stop by his office at 3680 NE Akin Drive, #100 in Lee’s Summit to get your quote and support Peace Partnership! Make sure to mention Peace Partnership or Quotes for Good.
*Quotes cannot be made from current State Farm customers, but you can refer your family and friends!
Day of Giving at Jersey Mike’s Subs in Blue Springs
Wednesday, March 27, 2019
Join us for our 3rd Day of Giving with Jersey Mike’s Subs in Blue Springs. Pre-order your lunch today for Wednesday, March 27 when 100% of the cost of your order will be donated to Peace Partnership. Click here to order online.
Join our “100 Campaign”
100 people giving $100 to raise $10,000!
1 in 5 kids experience severe mental health struggles. Thankfully, there’s help…right here in our community. Join 100 community members coming together to bring hope to those in need. Donate your $100 gift here.
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Our 5th anniversary year has been exciting! Here’s some of our successes:
- 75% overall client success rate (national average is 64%).
- 85% child client success rate (national average is 70%).
- Over 220 Peace Partnership donors (that’s a 20% increase from last year). You all rock!
- Began our new internship program which allowed us to double our in-school counseling partnerships to four elementary schools in our community.
- Began planning our first group therapy program for teens affected by the addictions of their parents.
- One of our counselors, Dr. Cary Corley, received his Autism Specialist certification.
Your support makes all of this possible. Thank you!
Thank you to our January partners:
- Darrell Leven, thank you for your generosity.
- Rick and Jan Britton, we are extraordinarily grateful for your generous heart for all that we do.
- Thank you, Jason and Val Schram, for joining our 100 Campaign.
- Bob and Candy White, we are excited to begin our new partnership with you.
- Thank you to Michael and Julie Hirons for your belief in our mission and to EPR Properties for your generous matching gift.
- Thank you to the Loretto Foundation for helping families get the help and healing they need.
To host an event or take part in any of our upcoming activities, contact our Director of Development, Amy Henderson at 816-399-0530 or: email@example.com. Please click on the link below to become a Partner.
Does Your Company Have a Matching Gift Program?
If so, you can double your gifts to Peace Partnership. Check here to see if your company provides a matching gift program to its employees. Still unsure? Contact your company’s HR department or email Amy at firstname.lastname@example.org to learn more.