Peace Partnership

Fall-ing Apart

Posted by on Oct 3, 2018

 

Summer’s over, and as the days begin to get shorter our list of activities gets longer. Kids are back to school, with homework, and PTA fundraisers, teachers’ nights, and school programs. Fall sports are back too, with practices during the week and games on Saturday and Sunday. If you attend church there’s fall carnivals and daddy-daughter campouts. For most American families the fall has turned into the busiest time of year. There’s something scheduled for every weekend and most weeknights.

Don’t get me wrong, I love participating in everything listed above. I just wish it didn’t happen all at once. It’s like trying to get a sip of water from a fire hydrant on a hot day. The double whammy of taking on extra responsibilities after having the summer off can leave you reeling and trying to catch up for a couple of weeks, if not more. Tempers get short and trying to juggle too many things leads to some things not being done well. So of course, I’ve got some ideas for you to be able to cope with such a busy season. Hopefully they’ll get you through autumn and finishing strong into the holidays.

1) Try to Plan Ahead. I know, easier said than done. But smartphones have made family planning super easy. My wife and I have shared calendars that allow for us to color code our family activities. You can even select which calendars you want your family to see, cause no one wants to see your work calendar. Heck, you probably don’t even want to see your work calendar most days, am I right?

2) Know Thyself and Thy Spouse…and Thy Offspring. This part is so important. It is wise to be sober-minded and reflective about who you are, what you’re doing, and how you’re doing it. I can’t tell you how many people I speak with that have false expectations of their own capabilities and the capabilities of their own families. If you don’t discern yourself or your family, you end up creating expectations based off of other people, like friends, co-workers, family, or worse…celebrities.

The truth is, we’re all different, and that’s a good thing. But if you’re not aware of how you best deal with stress and high amounts of social activity, then you’re bound to be heading for some serious burnout. Likewise, if you don’t spend some time working to understand the people who you do life with, there may be some problems a brewin’. A simple personality assessment will do you just fine. For instance, the Meyers-Briggs is a great personality assessment that’s been re-worked and narrowed down through several online outlets, like www.16personalities.com . The Enneagram is another popular assessment that has a great track record of giving insight into how an individual can set themselves up for success at home, work, and a host of other relationships (https://www.9types.com/rheti/index.php). They’re free, so take the time to answer the questions and make it fun. And try to remember it’s just a tool not a forecast of your future.

3) Focus on Hope and Gratitude. Even for a family like mine, one sport per kid and intentionally limiting social commitments can still lead to a very busy schedule. There are times in our life when it’s going to be hard to catch your breath. Instead of wishing these times away, we should focus on changing our perspective. Contentment is not based on our circumstances; it is based on our state of mind. Which means choosing to focus on things that are true, things that are lovely, and things that are worth screaming out loud, “That’s awesome!” In times of distress we need to make an effort to concentrate on such things. Even if it’s being thankful for the thirty-minute nap you get in on a Sunday afternoon. Focus on that, and be thankful for the fact that you have that time. Hope and gratitude are some of the best medicine when a shortage of time is threatening to steal our joy.

4) Prioritize and Realize. Did you know that the average speed of a space shuttle upon re-entry into earth’s atmosphere is 17, 500 miles per hour? Now that’s speed! Anything going that fast has to have near perfect functioning, and there is little to no room for error. In fact, one small miscalculation can lead to disaster and the shuttle will fall apart in a matter of seconds.

A lot of times people come through my office who are well on there way to blowing up on re-entry and they don’t even realize it. They’re operating so high and moving so fast above everyone else, that every time they start to re-enter earth’s atmosphere (reality) it goes bad. Even with an entire team of NASA engineers (counselors, pastors, friends, and family) the slightest malfunction can send them into a tailspin and end in an explosion. In counseling we call this behavior over-functioning, and it can be extremely damaging to both personal and family well-being.

Don’t forget, time is a limited resource; we’ll never get it back. We need to make the most of the days, minutes, and hours we have. And that doesn’t mean cramming in every activity possible from sun up to sundown. Prioritizing faith, family, work, and generosity goes a long way in helping us to know which areas need our time, focus, and energy. In fact, I prioritize my own time in that order, from personal faith to community. It helps me make decisions between multiple options and gives me the energy I need to sustain me when things get really busy.

Perfect isn’t possible. And trying to be “perfect” when you’re sleep deprived and pulled in 15 different directions is an even more distant fairytale. Give yourself and those around you the good graces and room to fail and make mistakes. Your friends and family will thank you later.


KC Mavs Night – October 12th, 7:05pm
Join us at the KC Mavericks home opener on Friday, October 12th!
Purchase $20 tickets here$7 of every ticket will be donated back to Peace Partnership!
We also need 10 volunteers to help at the game. Let Amy Henderson know if you’re interested!

 

Save the Date! – November 23, 2018
Wild Child ReSale is hosting a Teddy Bear Workshop fundraiser for Peace Partnership on November 23rd. Bring a new friend to life by hand stuffing it and wishing on a rainbow star. Name your new friend, receive their birth certificate, and take it home. Watch for more information on our website.

 

Join our “100 Campaign”
100 people giving $100 to raise $10,000!
We know we can do more together than apart, so we are working to collectively raise $10,000 to help provide quality, affordable mental health counseling for children in our community. Click to join the campaign.

 

Now – December 2018
Porter Chiropractic & Acupuncture is offering a complimentary chiropractic exam and x-ray for $20.00, with all proceeds being donated to Peace Partnership. For more details, follow the link, see our events page, or call 816-524-5838. Thank you Porter Chiropractic!


 

Thank You!

Thank you to our September partners:

  • We truly appreciate the anonymous gift we received this month. Thank you for your belief in our mission and your faith in Peace Partnership.
  • Larry and Marcia Hawk, thank you for your participation in our 100 Campaign. We are grateful your support.
  • EPR Properties, thank you for your contribution through your matching gift campaign.

On September 27th, 136 golfers joined us for a beautiful day of golf at Adams Pointe Golf Club to help raise awareness and funds for Peace Partnership. A HUGE thank you to our presenting sponsor, the Kansas City Mavericks, along with all of the rest of our sponsors, golfers, and volunteers who helped make our second year such a success. We can’t wait to see everyone again next year!

 

If you are interested in finding out how you can become a Peace Partner this year, don’t miss the chance to get involved. Please click on the link below to become a Partner. To host an event or take part in any of our upcoming activities, contact our Director of Development, Amy Henderson at 816-399-0530 or: amy@peacecounseling.org.

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