Feelings of Futility
“What do people benefit from all the effort they expend on earth?” King Solomon, one of the wisest and richest men in history, asked this daunting question. Daily I talk with men, women, teenagers, and even children, who in one form or another ask the very same question. Inevitably, feelings of futility will find us […]
Love Is Not A Victory March
I don’t know much about Leonard Cohen, but I do know he was on to something when he wrote the song “Hallelujah”. My favorite verse, “Love is not a victory march, it’s a cold and broken hallelujah,” echoes as a very genuine and realistic depiction of love for me. When I was working on my […]
The Blinding Bias
I think most people come into counseling having hit rock bottom. They realize somewhere along the way things went wrong, and they can’t see a clear way through the storm of life they’re currently experiencing. However, there is always an exception to the rule. The person blinded by his or her own biases is one […]
Don’t Exhaust Your Children
An undisciplined child is not just exhausting to parents. They zap energy from all those with whom they come into contact with. They drain their teachers, their grandparents, and even the grocery store clerk. A child who does not know or respond to boundaries will grow into an adult who is selfish, overbearing, and ultimately […]
Forgiveness Is Not Forgetting
Believe it or not, forgiveness is something counselors deal with on a daily basis. When most people think about counseling, they consider the consequences of their own personal behavior. They come into the office saying, “There is something wrong with me.” While our behavior often reflects internal battles, understanding forgiveness can go a long way […]
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