Identity is a tricky thing. Each of us, on one level or another, identifies ourselves as something. We do this because identity helps us to determine our value. If you identify as someone polite and respected, you will most likely have a high sense of identity. If you identify as someone socially unacceptable then you will most likely have a low sense of identity. We assign feelings of admiration or devaluation based on how we view ourselves.Archimedes said, “Give me a place to stand, and I will move the world.” Building on this idea, French philosopher Jacques Derrida later coined the term, “pou sto” meaning “a standing place.” Simply put, your identity is a standing place. As relational beings we are in constant search of things that can give us value. We do this in our day-to-day lives and rarely take much notice. When we go to church we are Christian; at work we’re an accountant, teacher, metalworker; at home a wife, grandparent, father, etc. So on and so forth we move across the spectrum of identity, stopping at the point that enables us to have value.Identity can move along a spectrum, and with it a person’s value. Think of this idea in a social context: by merely changing company, you can move from pauper to prince.What does this have to do with mental health?Our identities are an essential part of how we feel about ourselves. In short, our identity enables us to answer the question, “Am I worthy?”Choose a “pou sto” wisely. Seek out and hold on to the identity that empowers you and gives you value. Hold on to an identity that doesn’t change. Changing identity leads to changing value, and low self-worth leads to depression, anxiety, and feelings of being lost or stuck.Get off the self-worth rollercoaster. Whenever you begin to feel lost remind yourself of your identity. You have intrinsic value because God created you, he cares about you, and he loves you. This does not change when your situation in life changes. Because you have value, you also have dignity, and no one can take away your dignity without your consent.
- Thank you, Kettle Stop, for the fundraising opportunity and for all our volunteers who worked the T-Bones concessions. You guys rock!
- Thank you, Gateway Church, for hosting a Love & Logic parenting workshop.
- Thank you, AvidAir, for hosting MooseYard experiences and introducing us to new partners…Welds Supply, Kallsnick & Careswell, and Mantel Teter. We’re so excited to have you on board!
- Thank you, Friedline Financial, for representing us at your golf tournament.
- Thank you, LB Wear, for making us your “Charity of the Month”.