Peace Partnership

Learning to Fall Up

Posted by on Feb 1, 2018

Collaboration is an important part of the Peace Partnership culture. My colleagues and I often find ourselves sitting in one of our offices trying to find best-practice solutions to the difficulties we see our clients face. One of the most frequent issues we try to define and work toward understanding is resilience. Resilience can be elusive and can make or break us when difficult things cross our paths. Because of its importance, I try to help clients develop a sense of resilience and provide resources on how to make resilience a part of who an individual is at their core.

Resilience is one of those traits that we can’t always readily define, but we know it when we see it. I found two definitions that seemed consistent with what I believe resilience is composed of; first, Angela Duckworth, author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance defines resilience as, “Having passion and perseverance for long term goals.” I like that definition, but I think it’s incomplete. The Building Learning Character Development Program adds a necessary ingredient to our definition of resilience: “the ability to bounce back after adversity or disappointment; being able to manage and adapt to sources of stress or adversity.”

How do we cultivate resilience in children? As clinicians, one of the foundational principles we believe is that people can change. Fostering resilience plays into this belief. Rather than helicopter parenting, avoiding conflict, and fleeing from conflict we must allow experiences that could, in the moment, produce age-appropriate levels of anxiety. As one researcher stated,

 

 

Discomfort is where resilience is built. When we allow our children (or ourselves for that matter) to avoid hardship we reinforce on a neurological level that we cannot tolerate adversity or conflict. When we reinforce avoidance by avoiding and calling that an ok response, we end up with a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I’m not saying that we throw our children to the wolves and expect them to figure life out on their own. In my experience, I have found it important to play upon the strengths we see in our children. There are areas where our kids exude resilience. Notice the areas of your child’s life where you see a natural sense of resilience and grit, then find creative ways to transfer those skills to areas where growth is needed.

All good parents want to raise resilient kids, and allowing kids to experience failure is an important part of that process. Oftentimes natural consequences can be a powerful teacher. If we avoid failure at all costs we’ve lost out on one of the greatest natural learning experiences kids have access to. When we model to our kids an attitude of stick-to-itiveness during our difficulties, we model perseverance and resilience. Research reinforces what many of us already know: that individuals who live life with grit are those who live their life as if it were a marathon and not a sprint.

Developing a growth mindset helps develop grit and teaches us that learning can change with time and effort. When we teach our children, students, or clients that failure is not a place of permanence but, rather, a step in the road toward positive change, we foster the grit and resilience that we so desperately desire for them.

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PEACE PARTNERSHIP NIGHT AT THE KC MAVERICKS!
Tuesday, February 27th @ 7:05pm

Enjoy a fun night in February with Peace Partnership at the Kansas City Mavericks. Tickets are $20 each and $7 of every ticket is a donation for Peace Partnership along with other fundraisers throughout the evening. Our goal is to sell 200 tickets! Purchase tickets here and enter the promo code: peace.

VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES! We are looking for ten volunteers to help at this event. If you’re interested, email amy@peacecounseling.org.

Please help us out by sharing our Facebook event with your friends!

 

CLAUDIA’S CLOSET FUNDRAISER!
February 1st-28th

Claudia’s Closet is a 501(c)(3) thrift store in Lee’s Summit with a big heart, giving their profits to a different local charity each month. Peace Partnership is their chosen charity for the month of February! In addition to shopping throughout the month, please stop by for any of the events listed below for more ways to help support Peace Partnership!

On February 3rd, Claudia’s Closet will host a Valentine Mini Photography Session at their store from 10am – 3pm. Receive two edited images and enjoy free snacks and drinks! A portion of sales will go to Peace Partnership!

Whimsical Watercolor Workshop – Come for a fun evening Friday, February 9th, from 7pm – 9pm, to learn the basics of watercolor art. No experience necessary. Cost is $20 and space is limited to the first 20 people. $10 will go to Peace Partnership!


 

Thank You!

We are extremely blessed to have such AMAZING partners! Without your support, our counselors would not be able to affect the lasting change in our client’s lives. Thank you!

Special thanks go out this month to:

  • Ryan and Keri Horn, we are so grateful for all that you do. Thank you for your support.
  • Thank you, Jondy and Heather Britton, for your generosity and help to support healing in a child’s life.
  • Thank you, Julius Oswald, for joining the Peace Partnership team. Your support makes a difference to someone seeking help.
  • The Mark Klinger Fund, we are blessed to have you as part of the Peace Partnership family and are truly grateful for your support.
  • Thank you to our long-standing business partner, Pearce Construction. We could not be the organization that we are today without your guidance, support and belief in all that we do.
  • Terrill Petri, we are honored that you have chosen to support our mission and look forward to building our relationship with you.
  • Bill and Leslie Thomas, we are grateful for your continued support of our mission to create better communities, one family at a time.
  • Thank you to our business partner, Toyota, for your ongoing support and love of baseball.

If you are interested in finding out how you can become a Peace Partner this year, don’t miss the chance to get involved. Please click on the link below to become a Partner. To host an event or take part in any of our upcoming activities, contact our Director of Development, Amy Henderson at 816-399-0530 or: amy@peacecounseling.org.

 

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