Peace Partnership

5 Thoughts That Kill Your Dreams

Posted by on Sep 1, 2017

 

What keeps you from following your dreams? There are several healthy reasons you shouldn’t follow some dreams, but what keeps you from following the good things you are interested in? Here are five reasons why I believe people give up on their dreams:

1. Disappointment. When we get hurt, we tend to recoil from the pain. We pull back from what disappointed us and resolve never to feel that emotion again. We say to ourselves, “That felt awful and I never want to experience that again.” This thinking causes us to believe it’s easier to not try at all than to try and fail. Disappointment causes us to give up on our dreams.

2. Fear. Fear is a self-imposed prison. Fear causes you to bury your dreams. Oftentimes we bury our dreams because we fear what might become true. Generally speaking, the more we don’t understand something, the more we fear it. Try to gain a better understanding of what causes you fear, not for the purpose of controlling what you don’t understand, but for the purposes of managing the fear itself.

3. Guilt. Guilt drains you of enormous amounts of energy. Unhealthy guilt places an emphasis on the wrong thing: Unhealthy guilt says, “I am a mistake.” Healthy guilt says, “I made a mistake.” You cannot feel guilty and confident at the same time. Guilt drives you to do things out of a sense of unhealthy compulsion rather than a sense of sincere commitment. Take a trip to the movie theatre, take a trip to the grocery store, but don’t take a guilt trip.

4. Bitterness. Bitterness is a type of emotional cancer. It will consume you. You will not be able to get on with the future when you’re constantly focused on past hurts. We can all remember hurtful things that people have said. Some of these things were said 5, 10, 20, maybe even 30 years ago! Bitterness is an emotional anchor dragging you down – let it go. Choose to look past these hurtful memories. Stop rehearsing past hurts in your mind and it will free you to pursue a better future.

5. Rejection. Rejection causes immense pain. It hurts us at the deepest levels of our being. It tells us there are people in the world that don’t want us. Rejection can freeze us in our current wounded state because of the hurt caused by past rejection, or the fear that is generated from anticipated rejection. Push through this hurt by “reframing” the thought in terms that more accurately reflects reality: “A few people may reject me, but there are many others who accept and love me.”

We will not achieve all our dreams, but that shouldn’t keep us from trying to attain some of them! How do we achieve our dreams? Make a plan. Planning is the difference between wishful thinking and a goal. Once you have a plan, see it through until one of two things happens: the plan falls apart or you succeed. As Dodinsky wrote, “The dreams of the broken are mightier than the wishes of the dead.”


 

Here is a sneak peak at some of our upcoming events. Make sure to mark your calendars and come out to support a great cause! Also look for more details on our Facebook page, on our website, and in upcoming newsletters.

Golf Tournament – September 21st
Our 1st Annual Golf Classic is only 3 weeks away and we need your help!

  • Register to play – $125 per player; $500 per team.
  • Become a sponsor – we are $5,000 away from reaching our goal but can’t get there without your support. Sponsorships start at $100. Click here for more info.
  • Donate a raffle prize item – restaurant certificates, major store gift cards, any service industry, sports memorabilia. All gifts are appreciated!

Watch for more information coming soon about Peace Partnership Night at KC Mavs.

  • December 16th
  • February 27th

 

Thank You!

Thank you for spending the end of your summer with us! We appreciate everyone who came out to help and to shop at our Wild Child event last month. Despite the rain, it was a great day! Please join us in showing our appreciation to some of our Peace Partners in this month’s “Thank You Notes”:

  • Thank you, Sarah Sharp and the Wild Child Team, for promoting us through your recent fundraiser. We truly enjoyed working with you to raise awareness and funds for Peace Partnership.
  • Thank you, Ron & Donna Patton, for your partnership. Your gift is such a blessing!
  • Thank you, Paths for Elder Care, for continuing to support our mission. It is our pleasure getting to know you.
  • Thank you, Susan Clymer, for your generous donation! We are excited to partner with you to improve the health of local families.
  • Thank you, Burns & McDonnell Foundation Matching Gifts Fund, for encouraging generosity by matching employee donations. We appreciate your help in our community.
  • Thank you, Joseph Antoine & Independence Farmers Market, for partnering with us. We appreciate your gift.
  • Thank you, Dewayne & Pamela Siniawski, for taking the time to listen to our vision. Your partnership is so appreciated.
  • Thank you, Gilda Johnson, for your monthly gift. We look forward to partnering with you to reach the families in our community.

A special thanks to our golf tournament sponsors:

Don’t forget to register here for our Golf Classic. You definitely don’t want to miss out!

If you are interested in becoming a Peace Partner don’t miss the chance to get involved. Please click on the link below. To host an event or take part in any of our upcoming activities, contact our Director of Development, Amy Henderson at 816-399-0530 or: amy@peacecounseling.org.

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