What do you do when you feel like your world is collapsing? What do you do when the rug is yanked out from under you? How do you deal with the giant issues of life that take you by surprise? You know the ones:
“Dad/Mom, I’m pregnant.”
“I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but, you have cancer.”
“I want a divorce.”
“Your child has committed suicide.”
“I’m having an affair.”
“Your loved one has died in a car accident.”
These life events – and ones like them – demand to be felt. They force us to respond, and often our initial response is to feel overwhelmed. After you weather the initial surge of emotion you’ll be in the position to begin working through the unwanted heartache in your life. It’s amazing what you can get through when you don’t think you have a choice.
Keep loving in your pain. What do you do when someone rejects your love? Redirect it. Relationships take two, and if the other party doesn’t want a relationship, or doesn’t want the depth of relationship you desire, you’re in trouble. So accept reality. Be sad and grieve the loss. Mourn, but move! Be wounded, but keep walking. Find someone or something to pour your love into. Maybe it’s helping the elderly at an assisted living home once a week. Maybe it’s volunteering at your kids’ school. Maybe it’s joining a small group at your church. Maybe you should help out at an animal shelter. If you keep your love bottled up it’s going to end in bitterness. Someone out there wants you; it’s your responsibility to find them.
Grieve and grow. Loss is an unconditional part of life. Grief, however, is optional; we have to choose to enter into it and work through it. Forgiveness can be a major part of grieving. Forgiveness helps us grow by severing the cord between you and the past event. It frees us from the emotional prisons we build for ourselves. And grief is only healed in community; you will not get better alone. Grief is not overcome in isolation because we need feedback. We cannot sort through complex feelings in a mono-logue, we can only sort through them in a dia-logue. Grief takes time to heal so be patient with yourself and others. You don’t get over grief; you get through it.
In your sadness, learn. Einstein said, “Adversity introduces a man to himself.” Allow your sadness to motivate you to think deeply about the meaningfulness of your life. We are responsible for fulfilling the meaning of our lives, for overcoming our grief and loss. Being human means responding to life’s bitter situations and replying to the questions that are asked. Being human means answering these calls. In fact, our life is the answer to this call. But who is calling? To whom are we responding? To God, and to ourselves. Create from the old and ugly something new and beautiful. For so many, the meaning of life rests on the attitude we choose toward our suffering.
Thank you to everyone who attended our events last month. We enjoyed visiting with each of our Partners who stopped in at the Donor Appreciation Open House as well as the opportunity to meet some new partners at the luncheon hosted by Linda Hartman. Thank you to everyone who made both of these events possible! Your involvement enables us to assist change in a family’s life. We want to say a big thanks to our new Peace Partners in this month’s “Thank You Notes”:
- Thank you, Jim & Debbie Good, for your partnership. Your support enables us to touch the lives of the families in our community.
- Thank you, Brandi & Donovan White, for supporting our mission in so many ways. Your gift allows us to offer hope to others!
- Thank you, Carol Rothwell & Roger Pierard, for your interest in Peace Partnership. We so appreciate your gift!
- Thank you, Becky & Glen Rogers, for the gift of your time and finances. We are grateful for your partnership!
- Thank you, Toni & Louis Travalent, for taking the time to get to know our organization’s vision. Your gift is a blessing!
- Thank you, Keller & Owens, for participating in our golf tournament sponsorships. It is exciting to work together with other organizations in our community to create healthier families.
- Thank you, Cheryl & Gary Hanson, for joining with us to help families. We are so grateful for your support!
If you are interested in finding out how you can become a Peace Partner don’t miss the chance to get involved. If you would like to host an event or take part in any of our upcoming activities, please click on the link below or contact our Director of Development, Amy Henderson at 816-399-0530 or: firstname.lastname@example.org.